So you want to know how to talk to girls, hmm?  Learning how to talk to girls can be a daunting challenge if you’ve had a history of rejections, or are new to the dating game.  There is a lot of interesting advice out there on how to talk to girls, some of it better than others, and some of it downright rubbish.  Talking to girls is just like taking an online spelling test, you don’t know if you will pass or fail. The truth of the matter is all women are different, and what may work with one girl will have another one forgetting your name.

Even though women are all different, there are a couple of things that have always worked for me.  How to talk to women and keep them interested essentially comes down to confidence.  I’ve found that I have much better luck when I approach a woman with the goal of getting her to pursue me, rather than trying to win her over.  You have to convey the message that you feel you are worthy of their attention, and that you’re giving them a great opportunity just by talking to them.  

So when you’re thinking about how to talk to girls, think about it as a game to enjoy, and not a test to pass.  Go in it just for the fun of it, and make her do most of the actual talking.  When she asks you questions, don’t divulge your life history and try to win her over with stories about your greatness; tell her as little as possible and maintain an aura of mystery.  Don’t lie or be rude, but try and make her the one taking a test even if you’d normally think of her as out of your league.   

Another tip on how to talk to girls to keep in mind; confidence doesn’t mean you can’t appear to be at all nervous.  It’s perfectly okay to appear nervous, so long as you maintain the impression that your nervousness isn’t due to feelings of inadequacy on your part.  Maybe your just a nervous kind of guy, but still perfectly confident.  You can use your nervous energy to your advantage, giving you a sense of energy and vibrancy they may find attractive.  A lot of women find some amount of shyness in men ‘cute’ in a kind of charming Hugh Grant kind of way, but if you’re mumbling and acting like your not worthy of their attention they’ll probably lose interest.  

These are all just basic ideas on how to talk to girls and shouldn’t be thought of as principles.  Being confident of yourself can never hurt, however, no matter who you’re talking to.  The best way to learn how to talk to girls is to just have fun and be yourself.  Sometimes it will work, and sometimes it won’t, but that’s life.  If it doesn’t work, it’s usually because you’re not a good match, and so its for the best.